I recently found out that a neighbor and friend from years ago had just learned that her husband of 40-plus years had terminal cancer and only a few weeks – at best a couple of months – to live.
It just happened that I was visiting her city at the time, so I called her up to see if she wanted to get together. She quickly replied that she would, so we arranged a time and place to have coffee.
I mentioned this to a friend, who said, “Oh, that’s going to be a tough visit – such a terrible situation”. But I was looking forward to seeing her.
We hadn’t visited in quite a few years, but I’d been meaning to contact her for some time – she was someone I was hugely fond of, someone I’d always admired enormously – smart, capable, funny and who never, ever took herself too seriously – the perfect next door neighbor to trade kid-related favors and advice with.
Many people have asked me about specific aspects of why we procrastinate. If you’ve read my recent Health Journeys article or my PsychologyToday.com posts on this topic, you know that there are a variety of reasons why we put off those things that we have consciously agreed to do. Luckily, there are also many effective strategies for getting things done – well, and on time.
One thing that can get in the way of getting things done is lacking confidence that we have the ability to achieve the larger goal. This is also known as “low self-efficacy.” When our self-efficacy is low, it’s like a part of us saying, “I know I can’t do it, so why even bother?” And if we think we really cannot do something, we are unlikely to stick with it, and may not even give it s serious try in the first place.
So, what can we do about this? In the hypnotherapy world, we talk about
the “trances” people walk around in all of the time. The messages that
we consciously and unconsciously tell ourselves, in one form or another,
often for years on end, shape our idea of “truth.” And these messages
become like our personal bumper stickers. Ask yourself what yours says.
Does it say something discouraging, like, “Mary: Can’t complete tasks on
time” or “Joe: It won’t work out anyway, so what’s the point in
Well, so I’ve been rooting around, trying to find good apps for relaxation, stress reduction and PTS. This is especially important nowadays with all our returning service members - many of whom are coming back from multiple rotations (some as high as 8 - that’s a lot of occupational stress, people!) - and the dearth of therapists, healthcare providers and other properly trained professionals available to assist them with reintegration.
The March issue of Imaginews, the beautiful magazine/journal of Imagery International is now out and available at their website. Editor Bev Hollander can always be counted on to do a terrific job. Check it out.
This month’s theme is on dealing with suffering, and it can be found here.
It offers a wealth of critical information and support for those who work with trauma survivors or those who’ve witnessed trauma. There’s some excellent info on secondary trauma and the importance of self-care, and some great basic tips on what to look for when assessing a client, what to say in a session, and how and when to say it – really important stuff that can get overlooked in our eagerness to learn new techniques.
Well, March is here. Hello, March! I’m always happy to see you again, and glad to be on the downhill roll toward spring, although here in Northeast Ohio, famous for its lake-effect gray skies, it’s hard to predict when we’ll actually see the sun. No matter. I can hear birds and there’s a nice, ozoney snap in the air. That will do for now.
March is also TBI and Brain Injury Awareness Month and as we learn more about the workings of the brain and count the casualties coming in from combat, sports and accidents, it’s worth paying some attention.
It’s estimated that each year, 1.2 million people in the US sustain a TBI – 475,000 of them children. They’re caused by falls (35%); car crashes (17%); workplace accidents (16%); assaults (10%) and assorted other things.
This morning I noticed that my extremely hilarious niece, Marjorie Ingall, a columnist for Tablet Magazine, posted this shout-out for Traci Stein’s excellent, new audio program for Procrastinators:
“I'm totally gonna buy it... soon.”
Today, I got from a friend a new paper by some Brown University scientists, offering a framework for understanding why mindfulness meditation can so effectively reduce depression and pain.
Just to restate for those who are new to this mind-body stuff, mindfulness is a way of training the placement of your attention on present-moment experience, such as body and breath sensations, as well as moment-to-moment thoughts and feelings. You just keep noticing these things and when your mind wanders, you notice that too, and just redirect your focus back to noticing breath, body sensation, thoughts and feelings. Pretty simple but very profound, and not so easy for most of us to do.
Well, many of you already know that we’ve been getting requests to make a guided imagery audio program for procrastination for a very long time. Finally, we’ve got a terrific recording for you, and it’s hot off the presses and newly arrived at our warehouse.
It’s brilliantly designed to help procrastinators put the most effective parts of their brains in the driver’s seat and to help people seamlessly and organically develop their best strategies for getting things done.
Traci draws from the latest research and the most effective hypnotic, mind-body techniques to deliver 2 guided imagery tracks – a short one and a long one - plus a separate track of affirmations to deliver powerful results.
After regular use, listeners will find themselves breaking large (and maybe overwhelming) goals into discrete, manageable tasks; sharpening their focus, concentration and work efficiency; clearly visualizing their completed goal; increasing feelings of confidence and faith in themselves; and forming healthy, well-timed work habits.
To learn more, listen to a sample or order Traci’s 74 power packed minutes of help, hope and habit reformation, click here.
We’re very proud to have this wonderfully skillful and effective CD on our shelves and in our catalog!
It’s important to let you know that we’ve switched email providers and you have been dropped from our list if you didn’t opt in to our new service here. Cindy decided that we really needed a different kind of capability from our emailing service, so we've replaced Topica with Mail Chimp.
I’m delighted to announce that Traci Stein’s new audio program for Procrastination will be released by mid-February. It’s totally terrific and I’m very proud to have it in our catalog.
A couple weeks ago, when I was in the studio with our awesome audio engineer, Bruce Gigax, working out the mix of the music and Traci’s voice, we kept commenting to each other on how good it sounded.
Bruce pointed out that he was wearing his Lucky Music Socks and perhaps some credit should go to them. I didn’t share his opinion, but kept that to myself.
Of course, I’d say that the biggest percentage of credit goes to Traci’s writing – words that are so beautifully articulated, technically adept and psychologically sophisticated – as well as her wonderful voice, pacing and hypnotic delivery.
Then I’d have to give another big chunk o’ credit to Steve Kohn’s,
powerfully evocative, immersive music – Steve’s music provides the
perfect bed for Traci’s narrative, doubling the impact that voice alone
And of course I’d have to give a substantial amount to Bruce for his
recording, editing, pacing and mixing – this guy is such a pro!
Cindy mentioned a couple of weeks ago that we really ought to put together a good, useful flu-fighting kit for our peeps – this pesky flu has been raging around us, felling staff, family, friends, colleagues – yikes! It’s really bad this year.
Guided imagery is good for this – we’ve learned that immune system (cellular) imagery will indeed up-regulate bug fighting in the bloodstream – it lasts for at least 45 minutes and maybe a lot longer. Do it a couple times a day and how bad would that be?